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Dec 5, 2022

I absolutely hate the word “resilient.” I think it’s a term that people use as an easier way to say “suck it up buttercup” with a smack on your ass to send you on your way. 

 As physicians, I think we know all too well what it’s like to just power through some of the hardest times in our studies, careers, and lives. We put our noses to the grindstone and we don’t pick them up for years. These habits often earn us a label of resilience, when really it’s just a precursor to burnout if we’re not careful.

 But, there are ways that we can be resilient and tough in our everyday lives, and the approach that you take can look so much different than the one you were exposed to in high school sports or your residency program.

 I talk with Steve Magness today about what it looks like to build resilience in a healthy way by listening to our bodies and tapping into our mental well-being to make the best decisions for ourselves, even if those decisions are hard as hell. 

 Listen in to our conversation where we talk about the main takeaways of Steve’s book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong And The Surprising Science Of Real Toughness. I guarantee you will walk away with some lovely nuggets of wisdom to help you pave your way to your own definition of resilience. 

“You’re still writing your story. You still get to choose which direction you go.” Steve Magness

In this episode:

[01:42] Welcome to the Show, Steve!

[03:43] Steve’s backstory and how he got started in performance coaching. 

[05:05] Where the message of his book came from.

[06:01] The misuse of the term “resilience.”

[07:58] Some of the history behind resilience messages and why they have been prolonged.

[10:15] The pillars of Steve’s book and the main takeaways of his message.

[14:51] The ability to grow from trauma.

[20:24] They share their definitions of real toughness.

[22:31] Building resiliency in your children.

[25:02] Where to connect with Steve and keep tabs on his events.

Links and Resources

Connect with Steve:

Steve Magness

Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and The Surprising Science of Toughness by Steve Magness

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